Children should grow up in family environments which help them feel worthwhile and valuable. They learn that their feelings and needs are important and can be expressed. Children growing up in such supportive environments are likely to form healthy, open relationships in adulthood. However, families may fail to provide for many of their children’s emotional and physical needs. Children growing up in such families are likely to develop low self-esteem and feel that their needs are not important or perhaps should not be taken seriously by others. As a result, they may form unsatisfying relationships as adults.

The following are some examples of patterns that frequently occur in dysfunctional families:

  • One or both parents have addictions or compulsions (e.g. drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, gambling, overworking, and/or overeating) that have strong influences on family members.
  • One or both parents use the threat or application of physical violence as the primary means of control. Children may have to witness violence, may be forced to participate in punishing siblings, or may live in fear of explosive outbursts.
  • One or both parents exploit the children and treat them as possessions whose primary purpose is to respond to the physical and/or emotional needs of adults (e.g. protecting a parent or cheering up one who is depressed).
  • One or both parents are unable to provide, or threaten to withdraw, financial or basic physical care for the children. Similarly, one or both parents fail to provide their children with adequate emotional support.
  • One or both parents exert a strong authoritarian control over the children. Often these families rigidly adhere to a particular belief (religious, political, financial, and personal). Compliance with role expectations and with rules is expected without any flexibility.

Students experiencing this kind of dysfunction in their families may contact the social worker at:

  • Health & Wellness Centre
  • Family and Marriage Society (FAMSA)
  • Physical Address: 10 Strauss Street, Universitas, Bloemfontein
  • T: +27 51 522 4199 / 2395

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