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Geraldine Meyers-Mashamba is Head of Quality Management on the University of the Free State (UFS) South Campus and Treasurer of the UFS Women’s Forum. She is also an endometriosis warrior who now wants to create awareness about this invisible illness.

Opinion article by Mrs Geraldine Meyers-Mashamba, Head of Quality Management (UFS South Campus) and Treasurer of the UFS Women’s Forum.
Endometriosis and/or its accompanying symptoms are perceived by many as an invisible illness; it is often dismissed, misunderstood, and considered exaggerated. Shockingly, very few young people have heard of endometriosis, and what is worse is that millions of women globally suffer from endometriosis, but they are not aware that they have the condition and oftentimes go undiagnosed for many years. 

With March being Endometriosis Awareness Month, I thought it fit to share my experience with peers. Why me, you might ask? Well, I have had endometriosis for the longest of times – stage three endometriosis to be exact – and it has been so much fun (no, I’m lying, it has been absolutely horrific to say the least). 

March is national Endometriosis Awareness Month, and perhaps sharing my most intimate and untold story will create awareness around this chronic disease. So, let’s talk about it. What is this ‘endometriosis’ I’m talking about?

Endometriosis defined

Endometriosis is identified as the second most common gynaecological condition, affecting one in ten females. It is classified as a chronic inflammatory disease in which the lining of the uterus, also known as the endometrium, grows in places where it really shouldn’t. You can read more about the common symptoms of endometriosis at here.

Allow me to take you through my experiences.

The meaning of life with endometriosis

Endometriosis impacts all facets of one’s life. It isn’t just a bad period; it can literally ‘blow up’ your life, causing psychological distress, physical pain, financial constraints, and it has a devastating impact on a woman’s education, professional and personal relationships, and quality of life as a whole. 

What often makes me furious, is that there has been and still is this societal acceptance that having agonising, painful periods are merely part of having a uterus, and that it is totally normal to experience so much pain, which interferes with your daily activities. It is absolutely ludicrous, but unfortunately this myth is very pervasive. 

From a very young age, I normalised the chronic pelvic pain and heavy menstrual flow I was enduring, mainly because I was not taught any different. We have been taught that heavy and painful periods are just a ‘normal part’ of growing up and being female. None of my friends had the same complaints and experience that I had, and some teachers thought that I overexaggerated the horrifically intense pain and discomfort I was feeling. In addition to the heavy period, intense back pain, headaches, and fatigue, I also constantly suffered from constipation and even iron deficiency as a result of the heavy menstrual flow. Not surprisingly, donating blood was not considered an option, as I did not have enough blood to donate. 

For more than 10 years, I was sent from pillar to post, one specialist to the next, each time with a different diagnosis and some prescribing various oral contraceptives for my ‘hormonal imbalances’. Thinking about it now, I bet you cannot name an oral contraceptive that I have not used before. After years of contraceptive use, I started getting anxious, thinking and wondering – with all these contraceptives I have consumed over the years, will I even be able to conceive one day? 

In the year 2020, I refused to continue taking oral contraceptives because of the severe side effects it had on my body. My GP referred me to a gynaecologist, who then diagnosed me with stage three endometriosis. Although a scary discovery at the time, I cannot describe how pleased I was to finally put a name to the illness that paralysed and haunted me most of my life. I felt vindicated!!!

Endometriosis is not experienced in the same way by all women, but personally it impacted me in the following ways:
Physical impact

I would experience chronic pelvic pain coupled with a heavy menstrual flow and back pains that would numb my legs, which at times only left me with about 12 pain-free days in a month (and that was only if I was lucky). The physical pain was ten times that of a normal period and left me weak and tired more times than I can count.

The fatigue was terrible, yet I struggled to sleep at night, and waking up in the morning was a mission. I usually told people that I have insomnia when I looked a bit too tired. And I painfully convinced myself that I had a very high pain threshold, which brings me to the psychological impact that endometriosis has had on my life. 

Psychological and emotional impact 

Before I could put a name to the pain, I used to think that perhaps I am being over-dramatic, perhaps I am even imagining the painful symptoms I have been experiencing; imagine trying to convince yourself that what you are feeling is not really what you are feeling! I constantly questioned myself, and kept wondering – am I normal? Having this chronic disease is emotionally vexing, and in all honesty, I still have days where I find myself hiding my pain and tears behind my smile. 

Endometriosis and its impact on relationships
It is not easy to explain to your partner, friends, and family why you are unable to sit through a social event or gathering when you have a sudden endometriosis flare-up. 

What is even worse and more humiliating, is having to sit your partner down in the initiation phase of your relationship to explain the intricacies of menstrual health, in addition to making them understand that your situation is a bit unique and requires a bit more understanding. It is absolutely nerve-wracking – for some it could mean the loss of a romantic relationship, and for others the establishment of a deeper sense of connection. 

Being the empath that I am, I constantly worry about whether or not my condition is overburdening my loved ones. For this reason, I keep quiet about my pain, I do not mention my suffering, and I hide any tears or discomfort behind a smile. Which is wrong, especially considering the amazing support system I have in place. My family and friends offered me strength when I did not have any, and I am ever grateful for the support they provide.

Financial impact of endometriosis

One cannot talk about the meaning of life with endometriosis and not mention the financial impact that endometriosis can have on your life. Going undiagnosed for many years and going through various specialists to pinpoint the illness, cost my family a fortune. And when the medical aid savings run out, one has no choice but to dig deep into your pockets. The sad reality is that endometriosis is an expensive beast that one has to continue feeding. 

Essentially, endometriosis has decreased my quality of life and overall well-being. But I have managed to lead a semi-normal life with my condition by having a lot of faith and making use of basic self-management solutions, such as the use of the Mirena, which is a hormonal intrauterine device (IUD), taking hot baths to ease the pain, and using heated pads and painkillers.

And although the endometriosis will never be fully gone – since it is incurable – I have learned to live with it.

Take-home message

Endometriosis sufferers do not want your pity; they just need your understanding and compassion. The pain we experience is at times almost the same as having your internal organs wrapped in barbed wire. Can you imagine that? Currently, society and most front-line healthcare providers in many countries are not aware that distressing and life-altering pelvic pain is not normal; this leads to the normalisation and stigmatisation of symptoms and a significant delay in the diagnosis of endometriosis.

As a woman who has lived with this chronic disease – acknowledge the disease, continue to create awareness, and display empathy the next time a colleague, family member, friend, or stranger ‘complains’ about menstrual health-related issues. What appears to be ‘normal’ may just be another overlooked, dismissed, or misunderstood case of endometriosis. 

To all the endometriosis warriors, hopefully my intimate and now told story will create awareness. I urge you to keep fighting; your strength will become contagious, your stories will become inspiring, and your will to go on – even when your body is working against you – will make you victorious. Endometriosis does not define you!

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SRC Inauguration speech: 22 January 2005
2005-01-22

Campus Head (Prof Peter Mbati). Dean of Students (Dr Natie Luyt). Deputy Director: Student Affairs and my boss (Mr. Teboho Manchu), Members of the University executive and Academic staff members, SRC members, Leaders of trade Unions and Student organizations, Distinguished guests, Ladies and gentlemen, most importantly first entering students and Parents receive my heartfelt revolutionary greetings.

Let me extend my word of appreciation to our distinguished guests for adding value and dignity to this event. Your presence here means a lot to us. Program Director what I bring here with me, assisted by facts, and is therefore just the work of my imagination. Like a love letter addressed to a sweetheart miles away, even though you do not know how she feels, what she wants to hear, and do not even know how her face looks like.

To me a speech is just an honest and intimate conversation. That is why I got into the habit of establishing a dialogue, or a debate, with my acquaintances looking at their faces and trying to persuade them of what I am telling them.

Mr. Speaker and Madam Deputy Speaker of the Student Parliament we are gathering at this ceremony, significantly few weeks after the release of grade 12 results, with the exception of those from Mpumalanga because of fraud. The Grade 12 results also show that only 18% of Black learners matriculated with exemptions, as compared to 53, 6% of white learners. This is an indication that our education system needs an overhaul.

We are also gathered here significantly a day after the management retreat held in Bloemfontein, Masselspoort. The retreat discussed, among other things, the transformation agenda, and some possible solutions to challenges we are facing now.

Most regrettably, we are gathered here when the whole world morns the victims of Tsunami tragedy. Let me therefore tore the line and convey our deepest condolences, from the last robot of my heart, to the affected families. Our hearts and thoughts will always be occupied by this horrified tragedy.

Creating a new Institution

I would submit, for purposes of debate and discussions that this Institution should strive to specialize and excel in regional rural development studies. Since our higher education, institutions in South Africa are generally weak in rural development studies. Instead, most of them tend to have an urban orientation to their programmes. Training everybody for the cities, big business and the private sector. This is a big weakness in a country with such large rural areas and population trapped in poverty, disease and ignorance.

Women’s studies

Program Director, it is only a moron who can argue against the fact that for us to reposition the institution around the regional development challenge, we need to start first with women empowerment. It is a fact that in most of our poor communities and families, it is women who withstand the worst of poverty. They are the ones who daily have to wipe tears from children who are hungry. It is women who look after the sick, the elderly, those dying from AIDS and the jobless. They are the one who have to fetch water, make fire and cook. There can therefore be no rural development studies without women studies, in particular on how to empower them and assist in the provision of basic services, so that they are relieved from some of the burdensome task of the society.

Registration Process

Mr. Speaker and Madam Deputy Speaker of the Student Parliament let me indicate that the registration is a process and not an event, so it cannot be concluded overnight. This huge process demands for people to stay calm, as there is no crisis. People should stop being excited. At the same time, no organization should use its cheap popularity and unilaterally disrupt the continuous and smooth running of the registration process at hand.

Let me strongly indicate, madam deputy speaker, that I am on record for stating that I have forgiven all those who have wronged us. I harbour no bitterness towards the protagonists of our painful and unfortunate events of the past week. And we will overcome this process not by our own devices but by the help of Almighty God and the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Concerning registration of first years, we have programs, concerning that of senior students, we have programs, regarding graduations we have programs, and concerning HIV\AIDS we have programs. So, there is no need for people to press panicking buttons.

Mr. Speaker and Madam Deputy Speaker of the Student Parliament let me be opportunistic and welcome the entire student body on Campus for the academic year 2005. May our lovely first entering students have a happy and momentous year as part of Qwaqwa Campus of University of the Free State. May your studies be fruitful and enjoyable.

Student years are generally the happiest years of your life, so please make the most of them. While you are doing, all your preparations bear in mind that University is not an opportunity, it is just creating opportunities for a person.

On behalf of SRC members, our people, our students and management members I would like to welcome you all. Even though your parents are far away, here at Uniqwa you have more brothers, more sisters and more parents. Since we will love you with the same love as if we are from one family, and I have no doubts that management members will love and care for you as if you are their own children. Should you encounter any problem while studying at the Qwaqwa Campus of University of the Free State do not hesitate to contact us at the SRC offices because we need to ameliorate any factor influencing you negatively while on campus. I wish you well in the attainment of your academic pursuit.

Senior Students: We are not faced with just a new year but another academic year where we all have to work together to achieve our common goal of building our Institution through the development of human power. I urge you to invest your whole selves in this SRC.

For quite some time now, a debate has been ranging as to, whether has there been any progress in this incorporation process, or we are just moving with no direction. This debate is important, but I hasten to add not essential. The SRC is also involved in this debate, but with definite shift in emphasis. For us it is not important to participate in the debate than it is in finding solutions for the challenges of this new chapter in the history of humankind.

To my colleagues: Comrades, we are leading this Institution with a sense of pride and duty, and I know very well that we lead men and women, students who are determined to ensure that we all reach our destination safely and on time.

I said in one of our meetings that there are more enemies on our way, more than we can imagine. I think you witnessed that during the course of this week. The excitement and unnecessary confusions caused by some confused and loosed charlatans bear testimony to my statements. We should not reveal our game plans unless we are ready to slam.

Let me also borrow from the words of the late Albert Lethuli when he said and I quote: “There remains before us the building of the new land, from the ruins of the old narrow groups, a synthesis of the rich cultural strains which we have inherited. The task is immense”. Lastly, a navy divided within its ranks will be vanquished and destroyed by the enemy, but a navy united in purpose and action, loyalty and commitment will not drawn but sail on to victory.

In conclusion, let me call upon all political structures, church denominations, developmental structures, clubs, societies and forums to put aside all their differences, ideological insinuations and forge unity towards transforming Qwaqwa Campus of University of the Free State into an institution that is seen playing vigilant role in developing students academically, politically, socially, spiritually, religiously, culturally and otherwise.

Program Director, let me end my speech by indicating that every drop of my blood is telling me that Uniqwa is my home. I firstly became a student here, I became an activist here, I became a leader here, I became a president here, I will become a graduant here and hopefully I will become an employee here. So never, doubt my commitment towards the community of this campus.

Please be informed, in a central University of Technology’s way, that if there is no UNIQWA in HEAVEN, then I am not GOING.

Let us broaden the social base.

Tello Titus Wa-Motloung President General

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