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Geraldine Meyers-Mashamba is Head of Quality Management on the University of the Free State (UFS) South Campus and Treasurer of the UFS Women’s Forum. She is also an endometriosis warrior who now wants to create awareness about this invisible illness.

Opinion article by Mrs Geraldine Meyers-Mashamba, Head of Quality Management (UFS South Campus) and Treasurer of the UFS Women’s Forum.
Endometriosis and/or its accompanying symptoms are perceived by many as an invisible illness; it is often dismissed, misunderstood, and considered exaggerated. Shockingly, very few young people have heard of endometriosis, and what is worse is that millions of women globally suffer from endometriosis, but they are not aware that they have the condition and oftentimes go undiagnosed for many years. 

With March being Endometriosis Awareness Month, I thought it fit to share my experience with peers. Why me, you might ask? Well, I have had endometriosis for the longest of times – stage three endometriosis to be exact – and it has been so much fun (no, I’m lying, it has been absolutely horrific to say the least). 

March is national Endometriosis Awareness Month, and perhaps sharing my most intimate and untold story will create awareness around this chronic disease. So, let’s talk about it. What is this ‘endometriosis’ I’m talking about?

Endometriosis defined

Endometriosis is identified as the second most common gynaecological condition, affecting one in ten females. It is classified as a chronic inflammatory disease in which the lining of the uterus, also known as the endometrium, grows in places where it really shouldn’t. You can read more about the common symptoms of endometriosis at here.

Allow me to take you through my experiences.

The meaning of life with endometriosis

Endometriosis impacts all facets of one’s life. It isn’t just a bad period; it can literally ‘blow up’ your life, causing psychological distress, physical pain, financial constraints, and it has a devastating impact on a woman’s education, professional and personal relationships, and quality of life as a whole. 

What often makes me furious, is that there has been and still is this societal acceptance that having agonising, painful periods are merely part of having a uterus, and that it is totally normal to experience so much pain, which interferes with your daily activities. It is absolutely ludicrous, but unfortunately this myth is very pervasive. 

From a very young age, I normalised the chronic pelvic pain and heavy menstrual flow I was enduring, mainly because I was not taught any different. We have been taught that heavy and painful periods are just a ‘normal part’ of growing up and being female. None of my friends had the same complaints and experience that I had, and some teachers thought that I overexaggerated the horrifically intense pain and discomfort I was feeling. In addition to the heavy period, intense back pain, headaches, and fatigue, I also constantly suffered from constipation and even iron deficiency as a result of the heavy menstrual flow. Not surprisingly, donating blood was not considered an option, as I did not have enough blood to donate. 

For more than 10 years, I was sent from pillar to post, one specialist to the next, each time with a different diagnosis and some prescribing various oral contraceptives for my ‘hormonal imbalances’. Thinking about it now, I bet you cannot name an oral contraceptive that I have not used before. After years of contraceptive use, I started getting anxious, thinking and wondering – with all these contraceptives I have consumed over the years, will I even be able to conceive one day? 

In the year 2020, I refused to continue taking oral contraceptives because of the severe side effects it had on my body. My GP referred me to a gynaecologist, who then diagnosed me with stage three endometriosis. Although a scary discovery at the time, I cannot describe how pleased I was to finally put a name to the illness that paralysed and haunted me most of my life. I felt vindicated!!!

Endometriosis is not experienced in the same way by all women, but personally it impacted me in the following ways:
Physical impact

I would experience chronic pelvic pain coupled with a heavy menstrual flow and back pains that would numb my legs, which at times only left me with about 12 pain-free days in a month (and that was only if I was lucky). The physical pain was ten times that of a normal period and left me weak and tired more times than I can count.

The fatigue was terrible, yet I struggled to sleep at night, and waking up in the morning was a mission. I usually told people that I have insomnia when I looked a bit too tired. And I painfully convinced myself that I had a very high pain threshold, which brings me to the psychological impact that endometriosis has had on my life. 

Psychological and emotional impact 

Before I could put a name to the pain, I used to think that perhaps I am being over-dramatic, perhaps I am even imagining the painful symptoms I have been experiencing; imagine trying to convince yourself that what you are feeling is not really what you are feeling! I constantly questioned myself, and kept wondering – am I normal? Having this chronic disease is emotionally vexing, and in all honesty, I still have days where I find myself hiding my pain and tears behind my smile. 

Endometriosis and its impact on relationships
It is not easy to explain to your partner, friends, and family why you are unable to sit through a social event or gathering when you have a sudden endometriosis flare-up. 

What is even worse and more humiliating, is having to sit your partner down in the initiation phase of your relationship to explain the intricacies of menstrual health, in addition to making them understand that your situation is a bit unique and requires a bit more understanding. It is absolutely nerve-wracking – for some it could mean the loss of a romantic relationship, and for others the establishment of a deeper sense of connection. 

Being the empath that I am, I constantly worry about whether or not my condition is overburdening my loved ones. For this reason, I keep quiet about my pain, I do not mention my suffering, and I hide any tears or discomfort behind a smile. Which is wrong, especially considering the amazing support system I have in place. My family and friends offered me strength when I did not have any, and I am ever grateful for the support they provide.

Financial impact of endometriosis

One cannot talk about the meaning of life with endometriosis and not mention the financial impact that endometriosis can have on your life. Going undiagnosed for many years and going through various specialists to pinpoint the illness, cost my family a fortune. And when the medical aid savings run out, one has no choice but to dig deep into your pockets. The sad reality is that endometriosis is an expensive beast that one has to continue feeding. 

Essentially, endometriosis has decreased my quality of life and overall well-being. But I have managed to lead a semi-normal life with my condition by having a lot of faith and making use of basic self-management solutions, such as the use of the Mirena, which is a hormonal intrauterine device (IUD), taking hot baths to ease the pain, and using heated pads and painkillers.

And although the endometriosis will never be fully gone – since it is incurable – I have learned to live with it.

Take-home message

Endometriosis sufferers do not want your pity; they just need your understanding and compassion. The pain we experience is at times almost the same as having your internal organs wrapped in barbed wire. Can you imagine that? Currently, society and most front-line healthcare providers in many countries are not aware that distressing and life-altering pelvic pain is not normal; this leads to the normalisation and stigmatisation of symptoms and a significant delay in the diagnosis of endometriosis.

As a woman who has lived with this chronic disease – acknowledge the disease, continue to create awareness, and display empathy the next time a colleague, family member, friend, or stranger ‘complains’ about menstrual health-related issues. What appears to be ‘normal’ may just be another overlooked, dismissed, or misunderstood case of endometriosis. 

To all the endometriosis warriors, hopefully my intimate and now told story will create awareness. I urge you to keep fighting; your strength will become contagious, your stories will become inspiring, and your will to go on – even when your body is working against you – will make you victorious. Endometriosis does not define you!

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Volksblad: Moshoeshoe Memorial Lecture
2006-05-27

27 Mei 2006

Moshoeshoe het mense saamgebind
KONING MOSHOESHOE kon bewys dat verskeidenheid ’n bindende eienskap kan wees. Dit blyk ’n sleutelbeginsel van sy leierskap te wees – en dit is nie ’n maklike een om te begryp nie.

Jy bereik die grootste eenheid tussen onderskeidende entiteite waar jy relatief vrye ruimte aan hulle gee om hul eiesoortige kenmerke na vore te bring.

Dít blyk uit prof. Njabulo Ndebele se gedenklesing oor koning Moshoeshoe.
Lesotho; het; onder Moshoeshoe se leierskap mense van verskeie dele van die subkontinent gelok.
Dié mense het hierheen gevlug van die verwoesting wat as lifaqane bekend geword het toe Shaka sy koninkryk met militêre onderwerping verstewig het.

Ndebele het gesê daar is algemene ooreenkoms dat die oorloë wat hieruit gespruit het, die maatskaplike grondslae van talle samelewings in Suider-Afrika geskud het.

“Dit was in dié konteks dat Moshoeshoe leierskap getoon het.”
Prof. Frederick Fourie, rektor en visekanselier van die Universiteit van die Vrystaat (UV), het gesê die lesing vorm deel van ’n groter debat oor leierskapmodelle, veral die konsep van Afrika-leierskap, en die voortgesette diskoers oor nasiebou en versoening.

Die Moshoeshoe-projek is in 2004 aan die UV begin om met Suid-Afrika se eerste dekade van demokrasie saam te val.
Die projek was deel van die UV se eeufeesvieringe in 2004.
Met dié projek word geprobeer om ’n groot Afrika-leier te vereer en die UV se verbintenis tot transformasie te toon sodat ’n ware inklusiewe en nie-rassige universiteit geskep kan word.

“As die stigter van die Basoeto-nasie, word daar wyd erkenning aan koning Moshoeshoe vir sy buitengewone leierskapstyl gegee.

“Diplomasie, versoening en vreedsame naasbestaan is van die kenmerke van sy leierskap, soos getoon in sy pogings om verskillende groepe in een nasie te verenig,” sê Fourie.

KONING MOSHOESHOE, een van Afrika se eertydse groot leiers. Hy is meer as 130 jaar gelede dood. Foto: verskaf

Waarde van openbare spraak ‘nou bedreig’
AANDUIDINGS bestaan dat die waarde van openbare spraak wat hoog deur koning Moshoeshoe van Lesotho op prys gestel is, nou onder ernstige bedreiging kan wees.

Om dié rede dra hy die koning Moshoeshoe-gedenklesing op aan al dié mense in Suid-Afrika en elders wat die moed het om hul oorwoë mening uit te druk oor belangrike sake wat die samelewing in die gesig staar, het prof. Njabulo Ndebele, visekanselier van die Universiteit van Kaapstad, gesê.

Ndebele, wêreldbekende skrywer, het gesê dié lesing kom op ’n kritieke punt in Suid-Afrika se nuwe demokrasie.
Dié lesing, om die buitengewone nalatenskap van een van Afrika se groot leiers te eer, is eergisteraand op die kampus van die Universiteit van die Vrystaat (UV) gelewer en het ’n staande toejuiging deur ’n groot gehoor uitgelok.

Ndebele het gesê die mense wat hul menings uitdruk oor belangrike sake, kan rubriekskrywers, redakteurs, kommentators, alle soorte kunstenaars, akademici, koerantbriefskrywers, nie-gewelddadige optoggangers met plakkate en strokiesprentkunstenaars wees “wat ’n spieël voor ons oë sit”.

“Selfs wanneer hulle dit waag op heilige gebied, soos sommige strokiesprentkunstenaars onlangs gedoen het, herinner hulle ons net dat selfs die heilige misbruik kan word vir doeleindes wat min met heiligheid te doen het.

“Dit is hul manier om ons te help, dalk meer diepsinnig as wat ons besef, om daardie einste ruimte van heiligheid in ons lewe te bewaar.

“Hulle verdiep ons insigte deur ons begrip te verdiep.
“Dit is gepas om hul dapperheid te vier,” het Ndebele gesê.
“Hulle herinner ons dat leierskap nie al is wat ons doen wanneer ons in ’n sekere magsposisie geplaas is om ’n organisasie of ’n sekere instelling te stuur nie.”

Hy het gesê onder die mense wat gevier moet word, sluit hy nie dié in wat deur haatspraak ander aanhits om geweld te pleeg; teen; mense; wat hul andersdenkende menings lug nie.

“Dit is nie met dapperheid dat hulle aanhits nie, maar weens hul toevlug tot die narkotiese beskerming van die skare.”

Mense voel glo ál kwesbaarder
Vise-kanselier lewer Moshoeshoe-gedenklesing
’n TOENEMENDE aantal hoogs intelligente, sensitiewe en toegewyde Suid-Afrikaners oor die klas-, ras- en kulturele spektrum heen bely dat hulle – soos nog nooit tevore nie – onseker en kwesbaar voel sedert 1994.

Só het prof. Njabulo Ndebele, vise-kanselier van die Universiteit van Kaapstad, gesê in die Universiteit van die Vrystaat (UV) se eerste koning Moshoeshoe-gedenklesing.

Die onderwerp was Reflections on the leadership challenges in South Africa.
Wanneer ontembare optimiste beken hulle voel dinge is van stryk, versprei die naarheid van angs. “Dit moet iets te doen hê met ’n ophoping van gebeure wat die gevoel van dreigende inploffing oordra.”

’n Gevoel heers dat Suid-Afrika ’n baie komplekse samelewing het wat liewer eenvoudige, gesentraliseerde beheer voortbring in die hoop dat dienslewering dan beter en vinniger gedryf kan word. Die kompleksiteit van beheer word dan in ’n enkele struktuur van gesag gevestig, eerder as in die afgewentelde strukture soos wat in die Grondwet beoog word.

Dat die afgewentelde strukture nie hul grondwetlik-gedefinieerde rolle verwerklik nie, moenie toegeskryf word aan die mislukking van die beheermeganisme nie.

“Dit is te vroeg om te sê dat wat ons sedert 1994 bereik het, nie gewerk het nie,” het Ndebele gesê.
Dit lyk of ’n kombinasie van omstandighede tot die “gevoel van ontknoping” lei.
“Ek wil dit vermy om te sê: ‘Kyk na Khutsong’, asof u sal verstaan wat ek bedoel wanneer ek sê u moet na Khutsong kyk.”
Sulke kennis lei tot wanhoop, want dit roep ’n werklikheid op wat só oorweldigend is dat dit fatalisties kan wees.
Ndebele het gesê niks kon meer vreesaanjaend wees as toe ’n komplot van die Boeremag oopgevlek en sekere Boeremaglede aangekeer is nie.

Sekere Boeremaglede het van ’n maksimum-sekuriteit-tronk ontsnap. “Sover ek weet, is hulle nie weer gevang nie.
“Wat is gedoen om die gaping te oorbrug?” was een van sy vrae hieroor.
“Van só ’n belangrike saak weet die publiek nie baie nie. Die karige kommunikasie kan die gevaarlike boodskap uitdra dat óf niks gedoen word nie, óf die staat in dié saak misluk.”

Hy het gevra: “Hoekom het die kwessie van munisipale afbakening tot die situasie in Khutsong gelei? Dit lyk of die probleem voortgaan, sonder ’n oplossing in sig.”

’n Aantal soortgelyke, oënskynlik plaaslike rebellies het oor die land heen plaasgevind. “Is hier ’n patroon?”
Ndebele het na die onlangse verhoor van oud-adj.pres. Jacob Zuma, wat van verkragting aangekla was, verwys.
Dié drama blyk ver van oor te wees. Dit beloof “om ons almal sonder verligting te hou, in ’n toestand van angs”.
Die gemene draad van dié gebeure is die gevoel van ’n oneindige spiraal van probleme wat vertroue tap. Daar kan ’n sterk suggestie in al dié gebeure wees “dat ons dalk nooit sosiale samehang in Suid-Afrika gehad het nie...”

“Wat ons sekerlik oor dekades gehad het, is ’n mobiliserende visie. Kan dit wees dat die mobiliserende visie onder die gewig van die werklikheid en omvang van maatskaplike heropbouing kraak en dat die legitieme raamwerk om oor dié probleme te debatteer ineenstort?”

‘Swart mense staar hulself in die gesig’
DIE swart meerderheid staar homself nou in die gesig: dalk werklik vir die eerste keer sedert 1994.
Só het prof. Njabulo Ndebele gesê toe hy die koning Moshoeshoe-gedenklesing by die Universiteit van die Vrystaat in Bloemfontein gelewer het.

Hy het gesê dit lyk of Suid-Afrika ’n meganisme nodig het om selfvertroue te bou.
Deur dié meganisme “kan ons die situasie waarin ons is, erken, wat dit ook al is”.
“Ons het ’n meganisme nodig wat die verskillende posisies van die mededingers sal bevestig en hul eerlikheid sal bekragtig op ’n manier wat die publiek vertroue sal gee dat werklike oplossings moontlik is.”

Dit is dié soort “openheid wat nooit maklik kom nie”, wat lei tot deurbraak-oplossings.
Ndebele het gesê ’n komplekse demokrasie soos Suid-Afrika s’n kan nie oorleef met ’n enkele gesag nie.
Net veelvuldige owerhede binne ’n grondwetlike raamwerk “het ’n ware kans”.
“Kan ’n deel van die probleem wees dat ons nie in staat is om die idee van ‘opposisie’ te hanteer nie?
“Ons is verskrik dat enige van ons ‘die opposisie’ kan word.
“Dit is tyd dat ons die koms voorsien van ’n oomblik wanneer daar nie meer ’n enkele, oorweldigende, dominante politieke mag is soos wat nou die geval is nie.”

Ndebele het gesê: “Ek glo ons het dalk ’n oomblik bereik wat nie fundamenteel verskillend is nie van die ontnugterende, tóg hartversterkende nasiebourealiteite wat gelei het tot Kemptonpark in die vroeë jare negentig.”

“Die verskil tussen toe en nou is dat die swart meerderheid nie nou na wit landgenote oor die onderhandelingstafel kyk nie.

“Die swart meerderheid staar homself in die gesig: dalk werklik vir die eerste keer sedert 1994.”
Dit is weer “tyd vir visie”, het Ndebele gesê.

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