EDITION 14: Breaking Free: I’m Not a Victim … I’m a Survivor!Do you often feel hurt and insulted; as though you are not enough for someone; or continuously treading on eggs? If you answered yes to any of these statements, you might be experiencing emotional abuse. Emotional abuse most commonly occurs in romantic relationships, but can also emerge in other relationships, including friends, family, and colleagues. In comparison to other forms of abuse, emotional abuse is often more challenging to recognise, as it can be subtle and deceptive or obvious and manipulative.
The underlying aim of emotional abuse is to control the victim by isolation and suppression, leaving them feeling trapped in the end – often too hurt to endure the relationship any longer, but also too afraid to leave. Below are a few tips on how to stay safe during the lockdown, especially if you are stuck in the same household with the person who is emotionally abusing you.
Ways to cope with emotional abuse 1. Awareness. If you recognise any aspect of emotional abuse within your relationship, it is essential to acknowledge that you can take control of your life by being honest about what you are experiencing.
2. Prioritise your mental and physical health. Do not concern yourself with pleasing the person who is ill-treating you.
3. Establish boundaries. Firmly communicate to the abusive person that you will no longer tolerate being belittled and mistreated and explain how things will unfold if they continue with this behaviour.
4. Avoid arguments. If the abuser attempts to start an argument with you, start insulting you or demanding things from you, do not try to explain, soothe their feelings, or apologise for something you did not do.
5. Build a support network. Do not be silent about the abuse you are experiencing. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or mental-health professional.
6. Work on an exit plan. Based on the situation you find yourself in, you may need to consider ending the relationship. If your partner, friend, colleague, or a family member does not intend to change their behaviour, you will have to choose to leave.
Remember that you are teaching others what treatment you will tolerate, and at some point, you must ensure that the hostile treatment comes to a stop. The first step you need to take in ensuring that you get out of a destructive relationship is to realise that you are in one.
For more information on how to break free and cope with emotional abuse, read through the full article below.
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